For anyone who knows Tony and I, you know that we are very outgoing. We will talk to people anywhere and I mean anywhere! We love to do things that pay it forward from paying for groceries for the firefighters to buying breakfast for the cashier we know at our local grocery store.
However neither of us started this way, I was in counseling with I was little because my mom thought I was “to shy” and Tony didn’t really find himself until he was 16.
We have raised all of our kids to be outgoing and friendly to the world. Each one of them has taken this in a different direction and probably Jon is the only one who is the most like both of us. This is probably because Jon was 2 when Tony and I met and this has been his whole life.
When Nic came she essentially spent the first 3 years of her life at church. Being passed around, by everyone! I love the story of watching our teaching pastor feed her cut up grapes when Christmas morning because mom and dad had to work.
We saw early on that Nic didn’t like crowds. She would fall asleep the minute the music went up, if we went to a large event she would find a corner to sit in until she was comfortable. I will admit it drove me NUTS! I didn’t understand why she wanted to sit and watch a movie when she could get her face painted or play in the bounce house! As she’s gotten older I have learned that this is really who she is. She’s an introvert!
She is OK if the crowd forms around her, but not if she has to walk into it! She also will shy away from large events if she isn’t comfortable. I realize that being an introvert is more about genetics than environment and she is really just made this way, I just worry that maybe she is this way because of her health issues.
From an early age she’s been excluded, not to be mean but for her own safety. She didn’t attend birthday parties until she was 10, she’s only had a handful of sleep overs and those are always with close friends who can handle her health issues. She’s had to grow up differently from other kids because it simply wasn’t safe for her.
Kids with chronic illnesses have to learn to cope on levels that most kids and adults will never have to learn. They have to learn to deal with being different, being looked at , and even bullied. Nic has grown to be an amazing person! She has a huge passion for animals and especially horses. She is very empathetic which blows me away because I am not! (her dad is tho!) She never gets frustrated with her friends and their drama and she is always willing to pitch in !!
Learning to live with an introverted child is HARD! I am the go go go person, I want to be doing it all and seeing it all! She is more the child to hang back, she’ll go with me, however given a choice she’d probably stay home. Which is why I don’t always let her choose!! However, I have to learn as well to balance the go with the stay. That way we’ll both be healthy!